Don’t Get Bitter… Get Better!



A famous comedian remarked that he never held grudges or indulged in bitterness. He said, “While you’re carrying a grudge, they’re out dancing!”

Bitterness causes more damage to our relationships, health and souls than almost anything else. Doesn’t matter if it’s in families, workplaces or even churches, bitterness is such a destructive force.

There was a guy in the Bible called Asaph, he was the choir leader for King David. He understood the destructive power of bitterness, because he experienced it personally. He became extremely bitter about the evil and wickedness of his day. So much so, that he complained to God and began to wonder if it was worth living a righteous life.

But then Asaph had a moment of clarity and realised how bitter he had become. Embarrassed, he confessed, “I was so foolish and ignorant. I must have seemed like a senseless animal to you...” (Psalm 73:22).

Asaph realised that bitterness had cost him. My friend and mentor Dr Bill Newman used to often say, “Don’t get bitter... get better!”

Bitterness may feel good for a moment, but it always consumes the one who indulges in it. We need to choose wisely. Respond to life’s injustices with forgiveness and compassion, and you’ll cut out the cold, black heart of bitterness.


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